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This boast the baby, the baby more and more clever!

2017-01-11 11:58:35 30 ℃
First of all, we do a small test: if your baby got the first place in the exam, what would you do?

A, baby: you are great praise! You are the pride of my mother!

B, feel nothing, this is taken for granted, and urge the baby to continue to work hard, review lessons

Praise and praise are the best voices in the world. This is true for adults, and for babies. Do not think that the baby is not sensible, do not understand the praise and criticism, in fact, the hearts of children more eager to get the recognition and praise of mom and dad.

So, when the baby, when can not boast? In what way to praise the baby can play a role in encouraging, and not let the baby big with pride? And the mother invited experts to answer counselor Zhang Wei, also welcome Po mom comments.

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Should the baby often praise?

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Mom: we are twins that GA not spoiled, not praise boy.

Zhang Junwei

Yes, there is no principle of praise and praise is not appropriate, does not encourage some wrong behavior in children. We praise the child, to be combined with the facts. By the way praise, let the children know what kind of behavior is encouraged, what kind of behavior is not approval. This can be a gentle environment in which children develop good behavior.

Q

Yue children: I do not think so, baby boast a proud, feel very ill

Zhang Junwei

Your idea represents some of the concerns of parents. From the point of view of our traditional culture, it seems that modesty is a more popular quality, pride is shameful. In fact, reasonable praise and encourage their children, not only let the children will make children more big with pride, accept, confidence. A person who is really confident, dare to face his own shortcomings. If the child is often not sure if things go on like this, will gradually have to doubt yourself, inferiority will imperceptibly troubled children's life.

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Tadpoles Ling Ma: experts! What about my father-in-law spoil my son, I am afraid the son would later become Cassidy, my father-in-law is that, no matter what the son, will praise him

Zhang Junwei

Praise the child, but also need some bottom line and skills. For the older generation, the birth of the child to bring them hope, so the child's every move is full of meaning, but also let them excited and appreciate. This kind of mood is understandable. What you need to do is set some bottom line and guidelines. When the child made a mistake in principle, not only can not praise, but also to give some punishment. As for the specific bottom line and guidelines, but also need to discuss and determine family. Multiple standards will make the child at a loss, lost himself.

How should praise the baby?

Q

Cocoa is a treasure: do not know how to boast, stupid mouth

Zhang Junwei

Praise children don't need how gorgeous words. As long as the heart of the praise and praise, the child will receive your love. In addition, you can try some of the techniques such as children, children the best specifically pointed out the fact, such as "this dress is really good," etc., targeted praise will make children more easy to understand, know what to do in the future; try not to boast boast clever; personality facts do not boast boast.

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YY: I have 8.23 degrees of his baby, now the baby is good, my husband and I often boast. The mother came back two times a month for more than a month. Before her shit urine will tell me, because I need to take care of a second child, she's coming home she scolded my daughter after my daughter pull the pants, then my daughter finish pull urine will not say, even afraid to say. Originally, I was very good to her, and gradually feel no need. Digress... Children do right can boast, can not boast.

Zhang Junwei

Praise should be appropriate. At the same time, let the children feel the principles and norms, and you T expert Zhang Wei: unconditional acceptance and love, so that children can feel at ease to do their own, do not deliberately to impress anyone, do not fear criticism.

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Phoebe: my Nan wood Dabao two years eleven months, now I myself eat, what clothes to wear, or to correct a mistake and I will praise him every time, in addition to throw things, don't play something to throw this habit has not changed.

Zhang Junwei

Less than 3 years of age children, can eat their own independence, but also to choose their own clothes, have their own ideas, really great! It seems that you are good at praise and guide their children. As for the children throw things, no child is perfect, perhaps for the baby, this is a process of self release. You can try to communicate with their children, looking for what reason he likes to put toys? For a child who is independent, it is respect for him.

Moderately praised the baby will have what effect?

Q

Mecke Qinxiang: in fact, children of different ages should not be the same praise it, like I was two treasure for several months, she don't cry I'll say she is really lovely, really cute, really good-looking, she will laugh, and I Dabao small, every time go to school I praise him obediently so independent. Is a big brother. But if he had made a mistake, I would have taught him. If he had admitted his mistake, I would have praised him for it.

Zhang Junwei

Yes, different stages of the child also need a different way, because the pace of growth is constantly changing. You are very good at discovering the child's flash point, but also flexible application of various educational methods. To do this, it's great!

Q

And: my husband heart hastily often praise my daughter, even if her performance is not the best, he will praise, he said that her daughter can feel father's love, I think it really is.

Zhang Junwei

Although the baby's performance is not the best, but the baby is the one and only exist, pay attention to the baby through the efforts of progress, not to do is of no significance, let the baby feel unique and he has done, moderate praise.

Q

Mom: baby eat 123 Meng always chasing Hello, once he sat by himself to eat, I praise him, he would sit. Think about it now, maybe it's his power?

Zhang Junwei

Yes, it seems that you have found the baby's skills praise. In fact, as long as the intentions of attention to the baby, pay more attention to what he did, even if only a little bit of progress, but also need to get timely recognition of parents. Recognition, is one of the driving force for child progress.

Good mother said

Reasonable praise can let the baby have more strength and confidence to grow up, many parents will feel when the child is still small, can not boast, the proud boast multi, should the lesson, let the children grow up from criticism. In fact, this idea is not scientific, in the baby's growth stage, it is also very necessary to encourage and support, a recognition of the eyes, a proper recognition of the words, so that the baby is full of power.